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Nam« Address_______________________________________________ City. ------------State____________Zip Code-Allow at least 3 weeks for delivery WOMAN IN SEXIST SOCIETY Studies in Power and Powedessness Edited by VIVIAN GORNiCK and BARBARA K. MORAN ßjuU^ tot** S W^JUwW A SIGNET BOOK from IMEW AiyeraiCAIM LIBRARY TIM«* MIRROR ^/m ORGANS AND ORGASMS Alix Shulman H 7í This essay is not about love-making, a subject comprising emotional as well as anatomical considerations. Rather, it is about genital relations, and how they have adversely ! affected the lives of women. The myths and lies about ; female genital anatomy are so widespread and so harmful ; to women that the subject deserves an altogether separate consideration, even though it is only half the story. ■' ' :\ Almost from the very beginning of our lives, we are aÜ '■--taught that the primary male sex organ is the penis, and v the primary female sex organ is the vagina. These organs ■_■ are supposed to define the sexes, to be the difference -. between boys and girls. We are taught that the reason for. the differences, and the use to which the sex organs are put, has to do with making babies. This is a lie. In our society only occasionally are those organs used to make babies. Much more often they are used to produce sexual pleasure for men, pleasure whicH culminates in ejaculation. The penis and the vagina togetfc«■' er can make either babies or male orgasms; very rarely do the two together make female orgasms. Men, who have benefited greatly from both orgasms and babies, háve had no reason to question the traditional definition of penis and vagina as true genital counterparts. Women, on the other hand, have. Woman's sexual plea* sure is often left out in these definitions. If people consid* ered that the purpose of the female sex organs is to bring, pleasure to women, then female sex would be defined by, 292 Organs and Orgasms 293 lad focused on, a different organ. Everyone would be taught from infancy that, as the primary male sex organ is ute penis, so the primary female sex organ is the clitoris. Men could never plead ignorance, as they now commonly do, if from the beginning, their sex education went something like this: -BoYrWhat's the difference between boys and girls? mother: Mainly their sex organs. A boy has a penis and :^.agirl has a clitoris. ^boy: What's a clitoris? mother: It's a tiny sensistive organ on a girl's body about .4, .'Where a penis is on a boy's body. It feels good to i touch; like your penis. ' box: Do girls pee through their clitorises? Mother: No. siwr: Wbafs it for? ímOTher: For making love, for pleasure. When people love each other, one of the ways they show it is by caressing one another's bodies, including their sex \. ^.organs. -. \' &BOY: How do girls pee? : a.iiOTHER: There's an opening below the clitoris for peeing, A }._ ^inan uses his penis for peeing, for making love, and P oy,.,4foŕ starting babies. Wořneo have three separate places t; .(^Cfor these. For peeing they have an opening into the : ö/jr "urethra; for making love they have a clitoris; and for í. ^Jij'äae .'first .step in making babies they have a separate >: opening into the vagina. A. lot of other organs1 in '■■ women and men are used in making babies too. ;■ „BOY: How are babies made? (And so on . . .) OÍGANS s'^It has long been known that the clitoris, is endlessly more sensitive than the vagina, more sensitive than the penis too, if one judges by the number of nerve endings in ttie organs. In fact, anatomically, the clitoris and the penis Aave many similarities since they develop from the same cells in the female or male fetus. Yet, as Ruth Herschber-'ger pointed out in her brilliant 1948 book on female lexuality, Adam's Rib, society refuses, to acknowledge it: sfflt was quite a feat of nature to grant the small clitoris ifhe'Same number of nerves as the penis. It was an even : #ore incredible feat that society should actually have (Convinced the possessors of this organ that it was sexually 294 Woman Is Made, Not Born inferior to the penis.'*1 The vagina, on the other hand,^ for the most part so little sensitive that women common^} wear a diaphragm or tampon in it, and even undergo^ surgery on it, without feeling any sensation at all. Despite the known anatomical facts and the experience! of many, many women, men usually insist that the vaginal is the organ of female pleasure. Most of them insist, and -probably believe, that women, like men, achieve orgasm, by means of the movement of the penis back' and forth into the vagina. While perpetuating this myth of vaginal: primacy, from which they so readily benefit, the male "experts" make a small concession to the puzzling discrepancies in the "facts." Taking their cue from Freud, they claim that there are two kinds of orgasm: vaginal land clitoral- But of the two, they argue, only the vaginal kind, which is adapted to the male anatomy and suits male pleasure, is necessary, is valuable; the clitoral kind is not. Here is Freud himself: In the phallic phase of the girl, the clitoris is the dominant erotogenic zone. But it is not destined to remain so; with the change to femininity, the clitoris must give op to the vagina its sensitivity, and, with it, its importance, either wholly or in part. This is one of the two tasks which have to be performed in the course of the woman's development; the more fortunate man has only to continue at the time.of his sexual maturity what he has already practiced during the period of early sexual expansion.8 A woman who fails to transfer her sexual sensitivity from ■ the clitoris to the vagina at puberty is,, according to Freud, regressive, infantile, neurotic, hysteric, and frigid.!' The vaginal orgasm is supposedly mature, beautiful'and good, while the clitoral orgasm is infantile, perverse, bad. A woman is frigid according to many of Freud's followers even today, if she does not have vaginal orgasms even though she may have frequent clitoral orgasms. t ^5t[,: In their jokes and in their pornography, in theüntheorfes'. and in their marriage manuals, men treat the clitoris.Ä simply one more erogenous zone like the breasts,^underarms, or ears, to be used to arouse a woman sexually so that she will permit intercourse. They may remember the clitoris in foreplay, but for real sex, back to the vagina! The true center of female sexuality, the clitoris,'fc never identified for little girls who, when they accidentally discover they have one, often think themselves freaks to Organs and Orgasms 295 have on their bodies such a sensitive, imnamed thing. Most girls are not even told about the clitoris at puberty, .When they may be instructed in the rites of feminine hygiene and intercourse. The diagrams of female genital anatomy that accompany most tampons and birth control devices usually illustrate the urinary bladder and the ovaries, but hardly ever the clitoris. UV ■: fy':- Orgasms --Women know from personal experience that there is only one kind of orgasm, no matter what name it is given, vaginal, clitoral, psychological. It is a sexual orgasm. Women know there is only one set of responses, one group of things that happen in their bodies during orgasm. It may vary in intensity from one experience to another, but for any woman who has ever masturbated, orgasm is unmistakable and certainly cannot be confused with anything else. No woman masturbating ever wonders whether or not orgasm has occurred. She has no doubts about that. When it happens, she knows it. 1 The recent laboratory research on female sexuality conducted by Virginia Johnson and William E. Masters confirms clinically what women know to be true from their own experience. If a woman experiences orgasm during intercourse, it is not a special kind of orgasm with a special set of physiological responses; it is like any other Orgasm. Without exception, the Masters-Johnson data show.that all orgasms, no matter what kind of stimulation produces them, result in almost identical bodily changes for; all women—vaginal contractions, increase in body temperature, increase in pulse and respiration rate, and so forth. Though it is produced through the clitoris, the orgasm occurs as well in the vagina, the anus, the heart, the lungs, the skin, the head. "„^G'iven this clarity about what an orgasm feels like, why then, does a woman occasionally confess she "doesn't know" whether or not she has had orgasm during intercourse? If orgasm had occurred, she would know it. Since she does not know it, it cannot have occurred. Nevertheless, since she has been taught to expect some special kind of- orgasm called vaginal orgasm which can occur only during intercourse, she wonders.- She can not know what such an orgasm is supposed to feel like because there is no 296 Woman Is Made, Not Bom such thing. The sensations-of a penis inva.: vagina indeed different from other sensations; accompanied jbjr||| the right emotions they may be so pleasurable as to tempt; a woman to hope that they can somehow qualify forith» ^ mysterious, desirable thing that has been touted as vaginal f orgasm, even though they may not at all: resemble ^ttíé*^ sensations she knows as - orgasm. If she does not < take advantage of the mystery and confusion surrounding the term to believe that perhaps she has indeed had a vaginal orgasm, she may feel compelled at least to pretend ;thät she has. If not, she must submit to being called frigid or infantile by professional name-calling psychologists,-4oc-tors, and all who listen to them, and she must risk.-tí* displeasure and reprisal of her mate. ■■'■'■SM The truth is, there is only one kind of orgasm, one-set of physiological responses constituting orgasm, all those Freudians to the contrary. The term "vaginal, orgasm^ must go. It signifies orgasm achieved by means ofi-ifflteür-: course alone (for which no special term:is necessary)*;or it.signifies nothing at all. Some women testify ;toabating: experienced orgasm at some time in their lives through;; intercourse alone; some women say they have experieacéAí orgasm through stimulation of the breasts :. .alone^^tB through stimulation of the mind alone; or during Apparently orgasm can be achieved by various í í However, the Masters-Johnson research shows,: the reliable way of regularly reaching orgasm for mostiWomeí;| is by stimulation of the clitoris. — ^bítfpi The clitoris may be stimulated to climax by a hand;j a tongue, or, particularly if the woman is ;free to movejdt^ to control the man's movements, by intercourse. No^M way or combination of ways is "betteť^thaůany^ť though women often prefer one way br anbtherj'/fit that one way is rather more effective than ahoťhérŕ' dently for most women, intercourse by itself Taréryf" in orgasm, though vaginal stimulation may čettainrjf'1 enjoyable foreplay or even afterplaý. Masters and íol observe that the clitoris is automatically ^stimulated? intercourse since the hood covering the clitoris,«.] over the clitoris with each thrust of tiie ľ'penii^.^ vagina—much, I suppose, as a penis is automatically;^* ulated" by a man's underwear whenever he;.takes ^ I wonder, however, if either is erotically stimulatinj itself. ■ .,.-';;•.> <:x\ Organs and Orgasms 297 %ifo ..-> --■■ V-u!:;.. - • - - REACTIONS r~ 'jp'The word about the clitoris has been out for a long ř~ lime, and still, for political reasons, society goes on believ-~~' ing the old myths and enforcing a double standard of sexuality. Some societies have dealt with the facts by performing cUtoridectomies—cutting off clitorises. More -' commonly, the facts about female sexuality are simply suppressed, ignored, or explained away. A century before Freud, for example, the learned Diderot cited women's *' lick'of control over her senses* to explain the infrequer*-cy of her orgasm during intercourse: ,v There are some women who will die without ever having Z'} experienced the climax of sensual pleasures. . . . Since m [women] have much less control over their senses than .^We, the rewards they receive from them are less certain ': %and less prompt Their expectations are being continually :;' C. belied. With a physical structure so much the opposite of |, -i, our own, tlw cue that sets their sensuality in play is so V ^delicate and its source so far removed that we cannot be é-'f..surprised at its not reaching fulfillment or becoming lost ;i- g ori the way * :; Freuďs ingenious formulation, though widely believed, is ŕ ^nly.one of many. 2."-bkSinee. the Kinsey Report and the Masters-Johnson £ studies, it has become increasingly embarrassing to certain | experts and self-styled lovers to go on ignoring the clinical £i facts and the testimony of women. In 1966 in an analysis *}'■ of the Masters-Johnson research, Ruth and Edward i Ißecher listed three myths now recognized to have been ?;; 'disproved by the sex research, among them the myth that |; *iifoitten have two kinds of orgasm, one clitoral, the other S:: vaginal:.The Brechers* conclusion was that "women con--^ Oerned with their failure to reach *vaginal orgasm* can §C -thus be reassured.*'0 But that is surely the wrong conclu-jäon.It is not women who have been "failing" and must be ^reassured." It is the male-dominated society that has been ^iaahng and must be changed. Many studies of female ^ jexuality (95 percent of which, Masters and Johnson point ?4:iDoVare undertaken by men "either from the defensive ^jfomt^of view of personal .masculine bias, or from a y ^Well-intentioned and often significant scientific position, but, because of cultural bias, without opportunity to obtain unprejudiced material")* remark ön the spectacular^ ly high degree of frigidity among women. Almost all of them interpret it as a failing of women, not of men or of society, despite the intrusive fact that, as Masters and Johnson observe, "women's___physiological capacity fór sexual response infinitely surpasses that of man." nľ Although Masters and Johnson share the assumptions of our male culture that woman's goal must.be to reach orgasm during intercourse—even though this usually.re-quires getting to the brink of orgasm outside intercourse-— in their newest report, Human Sexual Inadequacy'i.Ltner-examine the causes of "female sexual dysfunction" more1 honestly than their predecessors. ;. '■:- --n- Sociocultural influence more often than not places woman '■. in a position in which she must adapt, sublimate, inhibit," or even distort her natural capacity to, function sexually; in' order to fulfill her genetically assigned role [i.e;; breed-1 ing]. Herein lies a major source of woman's sexuale dysfunction.'1 >■-..-.■ ;.«< ■ .V;,.-:1-. Probably hundreds of thousands of men never' gam; *rf-r;í ficient ejaculatory control to satisfy their wives sexúaUý^rev.T gardless of the duration of marriage or the freajjénčy'.ät|"- natural sexual exposure.8 . ., . V,"^ Another salient feature in the human female's disátf^j vantaged role in coital connection is the centuries^old ■-' concept that it is woman's' duty : to satisfy her -. sexndfi| partner. When the age-old demand for: accbmmodatioac^ during coital connection dominates any woman?«/, sivity, her own opportunites for orgasmic. expRssiptt^ lessened proportionately. ..; ■■; The,heedless maletfriv orgasm can carry along the woman- already,.lost, levels of sexual demand, but his chances, of, ,ele orgasm the woman who is trying to accommodateJt6 rhythm, depth, and power of his demanding pelvicgjf ing are indeed poor.» < .. . , .,'r\' m* The most unfortunate misconception .our ctütnVe1 assigned to sexual functioning is the assumption^ ^By^l men and women, that men by divine guidance and ^ii ble instinct are able-to discern exactly nwhaV £'" wants sexually and when she wants- It Prob*lfb/;*S fallacy has interfered with natural sexual inteŕactíoffí much as any other single factor.1* ... !v>;.■ ■ .jiirt «'■ Articles in the older literature even went.so.; far as,;to advocate the following procedures for correcting fein masturbation: amputation or cautery of ^theclitori?' miniature chasity belts,' sewing the vaginal 'lfps tô'get— put the clitoris out of reach,'and even' castratíófl!^ surgical removal' of the ovaries., [But, continues ■£( Hastings tn a footnote,] there are no. references in l the medical literature to surgical removal of testicles OFj tation of. the penis to stop masturbatí^n. One;^_ what heroic measures might have, been proposed,, fór j if women instead of mien: had composed the' 'met profession of the time.18 "-= ■: -. .-.■.- ■ ■ ,r '■■■ ■ :- .. ; ."i ;rI aA**: Yes, one wonders. And oné wonders' What .nuehť'liÄVB been defined as the major male and female'.seic ötgafiOhe;-standard sexual .position, the 'psychic, '*tasks .&*J3&$$if8&'i ment" as Freudcalled them, arid in- fac^ masculinity,*«! femininity.themselves, ü%women Instead of- men had^jjQDflK posed not only the medical profession, but the idomin*Ut| caste in society as well. '• ■>-' -■■■ ■■■• '^-&«K.*#$iß Men do not easily give tip the myths about '-'fäffljfe"í sexuality because, whether they are aware of it or not, men;-benefit from ^believing themi Believing in the prbnäeyuHF^ the vagina allows them to use women for. their own «exuil ■ pleasure, commandeering vaginas without! com themselves rapists. Believing in vaginal orgasm Jréeil of responsibility for a woman's sexual pleasure; .if ia?1 an does not reach orgasm '■ through wtercourserrfrf/ii own psychological failing. If they give pleasure to ifĹwoqfľi an another way, they -.an doing her a favor. It' doctf-Bit| occur to them that, as Ann Koedt say5,HÍf:certainrísextaÍ3 positions now denned as 'standard' are not mutually tco*í Organs and Orgasms 301 iciye to orgasm, they [must] no longer be denned as iindard."17 They do not admit that, as Ti-Grace Atkin-'i ^observes in "The Institution of Sexual Intercourse,** it whole point of vaginal orgasm is that it supports the .Jriew that vaginal penetration [by a penis] is a good in iind for itself."18 By perpetuating these myths society j;J>erpetuates the notion that women must be dependent tpolély on men for their sexual satisfaction and subordinate e.-to the male interpretation of female pleasure. íThe Discovery &&' For thousands of years men have—perhaps uncon-Picjoušly—benefited from these myths and have therefore ^believed them, nourishing them through all the various ^channels of culture, despite all the evidence to the con-Jfcary. But why have women, who know from experience ■'*J&at the vagina is not the source of their sexual pleasure, ^jind who know only one kind of orgasm, believed in these Smyths? -fíg- Kept apart for so long, women until recently have been jmder great pressure not to discuss their sexual experiences with other women, just as Masters and Johnson were under great pressure not to study sex in the lab-tdratory. Without information many women have, from ^childhood on, considered their own sexual experience -;iBEceptional and themselves inadequate, if not neurotic, "antile, frigid, or simply freaks. Though each one recog-that the sex myths did not describe her own experi-i, she assumed that they did describe the experience of her women, about whom she had no real information. many women secretly hoped that their own experience Id some day follow suit. Now that women, the only experts on female sexuality, are beginning to talk her and compare notes, they are discovering that weir experiences are remarkably similar and that they are ct freaks. In the process of exposing the myths and lies, men are discoverng that it is not they who have indi-lal sex problems; it is society that has one great big finical problem. There are actually laws on the books in most states that "ie as "unnatural" and therefore criminal any (sexual) "tion other than that of the woman on the bottom and tiie man on the top; laws that make oral sex a crime 302 Woman: Is Made, 'Not ~Bora though for many'women itis'thft only'waý'offáí orgasm with another 'person; laws that Jnafce homo a crime, though for some people it is^the^ônly aí way of loving. ''•-'- -;'~ ■ ■' ^si '■"-- "-<-\ ^'Xf-t^^-xl+'-M The pressures that have long mate;so many% -'->-'■-" -■•;;'"<'■ /'*.■■■■' ŕsä»$-" ■ - - ■' .'.'-. ' .■•■:: ■■:.._ ,:■:■.!. V-t-f'/ ZlSVf • '■ "• ''> . '■ . -:■.■ ■ .*■ : > : ' I ..■ --'.iU'i'- yj.-jíiľlO - --" -.,. : :"■,."■: -.-.u ,::■:■ L>..i.or'f>Íi4ř' ■ NOTES'1-'■-■■"■■ ''■'■' í-''--'P^/ ■■■ ■' 'i " ■;: '^-'-.■-: ' ; ,'. " -L V. ~: r Vj A; iq,- -\ . .'íiJniäHh 1. Ruth Herschberger; Adam's Rlb ..(New Yoitl Pellegrini fcfl*." . dafay, 1948).,pv31. ■„■«,■. «... ,...,;, ; .'■ - .-nv^ *A?' '•& Z^Sigmund Freud, Néw Introductory Lecfúŕei/ôn'TsychfrAňW (London: Kogarth. Press, 1946)^.^51-15^ - -C~nv.w in« 3. It is not their senses; but thtítrbodies;;over which won» Ihm: : lea«.control than men: men control them..-.'; ■■■?'-■< ■ 'ur-.-> bfrrc 4. Dents Diderot,./'On Women" ,-(1772), JmLester Crockerse.., Selected Writings, tr. Derek Cbltman (New York: MlSfnflM ■ 1966), p. 310. " ■• ■■' " " »'I..U--. i.-ni 'i.íÄI^S 5. Ruth and Edward Brecher, .An Analysis of Human Sexwafttt ■ jpo«Ä(NewYork: Signet, 1966),.p.S4.;. .t:i ■■.;"- - ■•.■■ť ;o« ; 6. William H.. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson,'-Human Sexm -A Inadequacy (Boston:'Little Brown, 1970), p;. 214. See aístt'fin % earner stody by the 'same* aaüion, Hiürian SéíuM^lUsp&Řái >é (Boston: Little Brown, 1966). .ŕ:7-:ri,r'Wi;:jiJBo<ŕ£ - 7. Masten and-Johnsoft Human Sexual Inadequacy\ p,.2l8.-.-Krjľ^J'r 8. Ibia\, p. 96. . . , ;. , -...-..,. . .. ^ 10. Ibid., p. 87. 11. Ibid^ D.-30Í. Organs and Orgasms 3<Ö rum Koedt, "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm," in Sbulamtth Firestone and Ann Koedt, eds., Notes from the Second Year: Women's Liberation (New York, 1970), p. 39. , Leslie H. Färber, "ľm Sorry, Dear," in Brecher and Brecher, Pop. rif, p. 310. Italics added. / rlbtd. . Masters and Johnson, Human Sexual Inadequacy, p. 93. .Donald W. Hastings, "Can Specific Training Procedures Over-''come Sexual Inadequacy?"-in Brecher and Brecher, op. c«, Jfefc 232. --.:. * ■ .:- ;- "'■" 1». Koedt, op. dr., p. 38. ~ „ . la." Ti-Grace Atkinson, "The Institution of Sexual Intercourse, m J, Firestone and Koedt, op. cii.i p. 44; » !í%iWn - ■ ■i'J