“I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of
someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and
disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss

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“I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss

NEDVĚDOVÁ, Světlana

Základní údaje

Originální název

“I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss

Název česky

"Cítím se starý. Určitě to může být kvůli tomu, že jsem se o někoho staral."

Název anglicky

“I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss

Autoři

NEDVĚDOVÁ, Světlana

Vydání

1st International Forum LGBTQI+ Ageing In Southern Europe, 2024

Další údaje

Typ výsledku

Prezentace na konferencích

Utajení

není předmětem státního či obchodního tajemství

Odkazy

URL

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Klíčová slova česky

queer; stárnutí; sociálně neuznaný žal; truchlení

Klíčová slova anglicky

queer; ageing; disenfranchised grief; bereavement

Příznaky

Mezinárodní význam

Změněno: 30. 9. 2024 23:47, Mgr. Světlana Nedvědová

Anotace

V originále

Losing one's spouse and grieving for them is a complex and arduous process. Grief and bereavement, as socially and culturally mediated experiences, are influenced by societal norms and sanctions. In this paper, I’m going to recount narrative from one of my communication partners, Dennis, a 40-year-old gay man who lost his partner of 16 years to pancreatic cancer three years ago. Prior to this, his partner was diagnosed with Stevens-Johnson syndrome, resulting in sudden blindness. Therefore, Dennis assumed the role of primary caregiver, which reshaped his life and altered his perspective, workload, and sense of identity, especially regarding age. Based on the analysis, I argue that caregiving responsibilities might influence the way one feels about their age. Even though Dennis is not considered old by the societal standards, he articulates feeling old: “Who among my gay peers in their 40s will say they've been in a 16-year relationship?“. Furthermore, Dennis’ way of grieving, a period filled with partying and drinking, was met with dismay by his relatives and friends. His way of grieving transgressed the societal norm, particularly in the context of the male social role, which is to appear strong, stoic, and not too cheerful, too outgoing. In other words, to grieve in a correct, normative way. The presented case study is a part of research project Institutions of Ageing Men, focusing on the inter section of and relations among ageing, masculinities, care, and power, with particular attention to post-socialist and secular background of the Czech Republic.

Návaznosti

GA23-05047S, projekt VaV

Název: Instituce stárnoucích mužů

Investor: Grantová agentura ČR, Instituce stárnoucích mužů

Citovat

NEDVĚDOVÁ, Světlana. “I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss. In 1st International Forum LGBTQI+ Ageing In Southern Europe. 2024.

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NEDVĚDOVÁ, Světlana. “I feel old. I'm sure it could be because I was taking care of someone”. Relational aspects of age, queerness, and disenfranchised grief regarding spousal loss. In \textit{1st International Forum LGBTQI+ Ageing In Southern Europe}. 2024.

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